The Survey You Won’t Find in Cosmo

Who likes surveys?

I’m a sucker for a mindless survey.  I love reading them.  I love filling them out.  Humor me with this one and take my survey:

1) What shoes are you wearing today (be specific-pics welcome)?


2) What is the last song that you listened to?

For me it was this one:

This was a free Starbucks download.  The music hoarder in me cannot resist a free song download from Starbucks.  I need help.

3) What is your favorite lip color (brand included)?

My favorite color WAS Chic from MAC, but they discontinued it!! **Sigh**.  No worries!  I intend to find a new favorite from my Friend, Cindi, who sells a line of lip stains from Younique.



Now, let’s get real:

4) In the past 12 months, has anyone told you that you are fat?

5) In the past 12 months, has anyone said that you are disgusting?

6) In the past 12 months has anyone told you that you are not good enough?

Regarding questions 4-6, I sincerely hope that no one has said any of those things to you.  If they have…I’m taking names and kicking some booty!  But, think about those last 3 questions.  While I hope that no one has said those words to you: Have you made those comments or even thought them about yourself?  We are likely all guilty of looking at ourselves in the mirror and shifting our focus to what we dislike.  I promise you that what you see as your biggest flaw, is barely/rarely noticed by anyone else.  We see your beauty and I want you to see it too.

I challenge you to stop the self bullying today and look in the mirror and say something you LOVE about what you see.


You have striking features. You have qualities specific to you that are simply stunning.

Did you know that when you take care of yourself, your self worth actually increases?  Giving yourself the gift of exercise, eating well and other forms of self care are simple and immediate ways to feel valued.  Something as simple as holding a plank, flossing your teeth or preparing a nourishing meal sends a signal to your brain that says “I’m worth this”.

I’m sure you’ve heard about the scientific “trick” that smiling can improve your mood.  If this concept is new to you, click here for an article from Forbe’s that explains the how and why behind it, then come back and read on (while smiling).


 (Actually, we are totally going to do that!)

Well, improving your body image and increasing your self esteem doesn’t just “trick” your brain into thinking you’re prettier, smarter, healthier…it actually uncovers your finest qualities, embellishes them and continues to nurture them.  You actually become what you focus on. Each day we wake up with the ability to create a feeling, attitude and reality.  What reality are you creating?

This should be very exciting news!  Each day you get to pick something grand or simple to do for yourself.  You get to choose new ways to nurture yourself.  You get to tell that face in the mirror what you love about it.  You get to challenge your capable body in new ways.  Watch yourself transform.  Experience your goals being reached.  Don’t get overwhelmed.  Each day, take another step.  Push a little harder.  Empower yourself through your own encouragement.

Here are a few easy ways to show yourself you are valued

Make this “Spring Scrub”!

This was a happy accident.  I spilled some coffee grounds on the counter.  Being the cheapskate frugal gal that I am, I wasn’t going to scoop them up to drink, but I did make an invigorating skin scrub.  I call it a Spring Scrub because it’s perfect for your feet and shins just in time for sandal weather.


Spillage=Happy Accident

Mix the coffee grounds (about 1/4 cup) with 1/4 cup coconut oil.  Add a dash of cinnamon.  This helps with circulation (as does the coffee).  The cinnamon gently plumps the skin by bringing blood to the surface giving you smoother skin.  It has been shown to help treat eczema and acne as well.  The coconut oil will act as a moisturizer.  It is also antibacterial (so is cinnamon) and anti-fungal, so it works well on the feet and may even help treat athletes foot.  The coffee beans are full of antioxidants (as are the other ingredients) and it acts as an exfoliant, leaving the skin smooth after you;ve rinsed it off.  This also makes an amazing lip plumper/smoother!!!  If you have sensitive skin, be careful with the cinnamon.  Start small and add more once you determine you tolerance.


Workout or Work-in!

Do a workout that makes you feel good.  If you’re really looking for encouragement, pick something that challenges you, but that you’re somewhat familiar with so that you soon feel a level of comfort from it.  Try something new or stick to a classic favorite.  Whether it’s yoga, barre or a high intensity workout like SwanFit, just get started.  A few minutes into it, you’ll feel your mood change as your body temperature rises.  Give yourself a pat on the back once you’ve completed it.  And don’t forget to down some water when you’re done!  Hydration is your friend 🙂



Make an Empowering Playlist

Put together a list of songs that make you feel strong, proud, motivated and loved.  Sing along.  Dance like you invented it.  Imagine yourself rocking it out on stage.  Pretend as though those lyrics were written for you!  Here is a short list that get me going every time…don’t judge 😉  I have shouted sang these songs until I was hoarse.  I hope you have a list that gives you the same urge:

empowered playlist


Take a Selfie and Give it a Caption

Take a new picture of yourself.  You don’t have to show it to anyone, but you totally can if you want to!  Don’t over think it and don’t even try to make it “perfect”.  Just take one!  Print it or PicMonkey it and put a caption on it that says something positive about the photo’s subject: YOU!   I’ll even go first.  I took a selfie as soon as I woke up this morning.  No shower, no makeup, so filter.  I didn’t have to be at the gym as early as I usually do, so I got to relax for a few minutes before I started the day.

My hair is growing fast and feels healthy. I woke up with my eyes feeling and looking clear. I’m well rested and full of energy today.

Now it’s your turn!  I’d love to see your captioned selfie.  Remember, don’t over think it.  Just snap it and say something positive about what you see!  If you’re willing to share it, you can post it on the Strong Calm Sexy Facebook page, on Instagram @omnoshedidnt or Twitter @omnoshedidnt.  Make sure you #StrongCalmSelfie and challenge a friend to share a Strong Calm Selfie too!  Let’s start a movement to get people feeling good and sharing love!

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